September 2009
"but you are the one i've been waiting for today & here comes the sun that's been baiting on today, lately i've lost my tongue but i thank god you came along. you looked right through me there was no one else, i sat beside you &became myself today" <3
joshua radin today
“How harmful is it swallow a small amount of nail polish remover.”
—A tech support email sent to Tumblr today. I’m thinking about adding this question to our FAQ. (via marc)
“If you can spend a perfectly useless afternoon in a perfectly useless manner, you have learned how to live.”
—Lin Yu-T’ang (via tylerknott) (via bumblebee12)
Today, I found some .pdf files on my wife’s computer. They were forms that had been filled out except for the date and the “reason” section. They were divorce papers. When confronted about it she said, “Well, if you piss me off really bad, I want to write down why before I calm down.” FML
Today, while emailing my very young, attractive teacher to ask a question, my hand slipped. Too bad you can’t unsend emails that say “Can we meet after school some time? I have some thongs I’d like to discuss with you.” FML
“i love you also means i love you more than anyone loves you, or has loved you, or will love you, and also, i love you in a way that no one loves you, or has loved you, or will love you, and also, i love you in a way that i love no one else, and never have loved anyone else, and never will love anyone else.”
—jonathan safran foer, everything is illuminated (via wehadthestars) (via bryonmcdonald) (via applewagon) (via wendybird) (via bumblebee12)
August 2009
An Open Letter To Jon Gosselin From Don Draper →
jezebel.com
(via kbethany)
My. Life. Is. Made.
‘My advice to you is this: get out of the pool. Button up your shirt. Put down the sleazy sunglasses and look in the mirror: you’re a 32 year old father of eight, not a college freshman on Spring Break. If there’s one thing I’ve learned in the advertising business, it’s that even the glossiest packaging can’t sell what is fundamentally a bad product.’
LOL
“It’s a very brave thing to fall in love. You have to be willing to trust somebody else with your whole being, and that’s very difficult, really difficult and very brave.”
Nicole Kidman
“Having gone through all of this, I feel in some ways calmer now. It’s strange, but sad. I think I’ll always be sad”
Nicole Kidman” —
Nicole Kidman” —
“You learn that the first failure isn’t the end. I’ve experienced them as death blows. What’s nice - after numerous efforts, successes, failures, losses, professional and personal - is to actually accept you’re not going to ace your life. You suffer, then you get on with it. You may spend three months in bed, but, eventually, you’re going to have to get up.”
Uma Thurman” —
Uma Thurman” —
It's Called a Breakup Because It's Broken
by Greg Behrendt and Amira Ruotola-Behrendt
There’s no doubt about it - breakups suck. But in the first few hours or days or weeks that follow, there’s one important truth you need to recognize: Some things can’t and shouldn’t be fixed, especially that loser who dumped you or forced you to dump him. It’s over for a reason, and deep down inside you probably know what that reason is.
At the end of the day, it’s about whether YOU like yourself enough to face the reality that your romance wasn’t working… to recognize that it wasn’t giving you what you needed and deserved
Life’s biggest rewards come from the biggest challenges.
Anyone who assesses you or your realtionship as “disposable” is not worthy of your time or tears.
Just remember, though, that any reasons you come up with are ultimately irrelavant. The harsh reality is that even if you have EVERYTHING else in common, the one thing you don’t have in common is the belief that this realtionship can work. & that alone trumps your shared love of puppies, The Dave Matthews Band, and Mexican food.
A lot of the pain you are experiencing right now is actually fear. Fear of things being different then how you liked them, fear of never finding love again, fear of being alone, fear of having to fill your time differently. We’re afraid of the unknown.The person you loved took a good long look at the awesomeness that is you, evaluated your relationship together, and said, “No, thanks. I’ll try my luck elsewhere.” Or you said it to him. Either way, that alone should make you realize that it wasn’t a match made in heaven
“I don’t know” means “NO!”
“I don’t know” means “I’m too cowardly to tell you the truth because I can’t deal with confrontation.”
“I don’t know” means please do the dirty work for me because I don’t want to hurt your feelings even more than I already have.
Awesome thought: The annoying thing that your ex did will never bother you again. I’m sure that your plan to get him back worked out in your head. I’m even sure that it worked out in some movie you saw. But your ex does not have the time to follow a movie script and you shouldn’t either. Move on.
Every moment of pain, weakness, and discomfort puts you in a positon to choose how you will react and how you will alleviate your condition. Calling him doesn’t make it better.. it only pulls you back into the cycle of heartbreak.
He is the past. You are the future.
Messing up his life isn’t the best revenge. It’s getting on with yours and living it to the fullest.
One of the suckiest and most frustrating facts of life is that sometimes relationships just end, often without reason. I truly believe that sometimes both men and women simply run out of love, even when there was a lot of it in the beginning.
Before you look for validation in others, try and find it in yourself.
As much as it sucks, you need to FORCE youself to remember your very worst times together, ..his most irritating habits and the hard truth that not only can he live without you.. but he’d rather.
You’re giving an okay guy who cheats on his girlfriend a hell of a lot more credit then he deserves. He’s a coward and a betrayer of not one but TWO women. He clearly feels ambivalent about you at best.. otherwise, he would have left this other woman a long time ago.
So many of us find ourselves saying “BUT HE WAS SO GREAT!” Yes, and the people who got on the Titanic thought they were going on vacation. Things changed and it’s important to remember that they did.
Awesome thought: The right guy is out there right now, wondering when he’s going meet someone just like you.
His regrets or lack thereof are exactly that- his . and not even the best little black cocktail dress can change that.
Every time you see him, you only make youself vulnerable to futher heartache. Do you really need further proof that he’s getting on with his life without you?
The one who dumped you has had a huge head start on the healing. However long he entertained ending the realationship is also how long he’s been emotionally extracting himself from you.
He was either partially or totally over it before you even knew it was going down
You weren’t in the same realationship. That should answer ALL your questions.
You can love your friends.. ..you can love your family … you can even love every stray dog or stray drummer that crosses your path. HOWEVER, you have to learn how to love yourself, like yourself, and put yourself first before you will ever find the healthy, loving, and lasting realtionship that you’ve been looking for.
“Some things don’t last forever, but some things do. Like a good song, or a good book, or a good memory you can take out and unfold in your darkest times, pressing down the corners and peering in close, hoping you still recognize the person you see there.”
— Sarah Dessen (via thisloveisdifficult)
Listen
Jason Mraz - Geek In The Pink
Dear everyone:
Sometimes you have to be strong for yourself. You have to know that you’re a good person and a good friend. What’s meant to be will end up good and what’s not - won’t. Love is worth fighting for, but sometimes you can’t be the only one fighting. At times, people need to fight for you. If they don’t, you just have to move on and realize what you gave them was more than they were willing to give you. Hopefully, people realize great things when they come around and don’t lose something real. Always fight, until you can’t anymore and then be fought for.
“It’s been a tough year for all it’s worth. I still keep your phone number at the bottom of my purse, between the sticks of gum and the reasons why I don’t call you anymore.”
—(via eletheowl)
“Sometimes, in life there really are bonds that are formed that can never be broken. Sometimes you really can find that person that will stick by you no matter what; maybe you’ll find it in a spouse and celebrate it with your dream wedding, but there is also the chance that the one person you can count on for a lifetime, the one person who knows you sometimes better than yourself, is the same person who’s been standing beside you all along.”
— Bride Wars (via thisloveisdifficult)
“At some point you have to make a decision. Boundaries don’t keep other people out; they fence you in. Life is messy, that’s how we’re made. So you can waste your life drawing lines or you can live your life crossing them. But there are some lines that are way too dangerous to cross. Here’s what I know. If you’re willing to throw caution to the wind and take a chance, the view from the other side is spectacular.”
—
Meredith Grey, Grey’s Anatomy.
this show gives the best advice.
(via mydeepestdesire)
(via thisloveisdifficult)
“If you can make a girl laugh, you can make her do anything.”
—Marilyn Monroe (via affremblequotes) (via gottfried)
“I was going to figure out the postage and send you my heart for your birthday. But my friends talked me out of it. They said, “Why would you send him something broken?”
—(via eletheowl)
“You deserve to be with somebody who makes you happy. Somebody who doesn’t complicate your life. Somebody who won’t hurt you.”
—(via marjchun) (via anniesheart) (via apologies) (via beautyintherain) (via embracetheclearsky)
“You fall in love with someone, because of the tilt of his smile, or because he can make you laugh, or in this case, because he made you believe, you were the one who could save him.”
—(via eletheowl)
“I want someone to fall in love with the way I laugh and the way I smile. I want someone to listen to the ramblings of my inner child. Someone who touches my face and brushes the hair from my eyes. I want someone who loves me or at least holds me like they do. But I only want that if it’s you.”
—(via eletheowl)
“One of my theories is that men love with their eyes; women love with their ears.”
—Zsa Zsa Gabor (via katrinam) (via meredithnyc) (via nyminute)
“You’re shy, in person. But you’re you, in texts and IMs. If you want us to happen, if you want us to work, we should at least try to talk to each other, in person. That’s why I’m here. I’m here to save you. Don’t worry.”
—(via lovelydaydreamer)
I feel like this is something someone would say to me. (via eletheowl)
I feel like this is something someone would say to me. (via eletheowl)
“Everyone wants stuff. We wake up everyday with a list of wishes a mile long and maybe we spend our lives trying to make those wishes come true. But just because we want them doesn’t mean we need them to be happy.”
—Ned, Pushing Daisies (via kari-shma) (via quote-book) (via fuckyeahpushingdaisies) (via storybox) (via dioxie) (via thisloveisdifficult)
“Your life is defined by its opportunities. Even the ones you miss.”
— The Curious Case of Benjamin Button (via thisloveisdifficult)
“That’s why they call them crushes. If they were easy, they’d call them something else.”
— Sixteen Candles (via thisloveisdifficult)
“It goes away, that feeling. That feeling that you have right now, today. That feeling like you can do anything. That clarity, it goes away and you go right back to being the coward who can’t tell the person you love how you feel.”
— Grey’s Anatomy (via thisloveisdifficult)
To every girl that is scared to put her heart out there again, because she has been hurt too many times or so badly. To every girl that has been cheated on, because she’s not a slut who gives it up to any guy. To every girl that dresses cute, not skanky. To every girl who wants to be called beautiful, not hot. To every girl that will spend her whole day looking for the perfect present for you. To every girl who gets her heart broken, because he chose that bitch instead. To every girl that would give anything to have a decent boyfriend. To every girl who would just once like to be treated like a princess. To every girl that cries at night because of another heartbreak. To every girl that just wants to hold hands. To every girl that kisses him with meaning. To every girl who just wishes he cared more. To every girl who just wants him to call. To every girl who lies awake at night thinking about him. To every girl that just wants to cuddle. To every girl that just wants to sleep with him without having sex. To every girl who shows how much she cares and gets nothing back. To every girl that thought “maybe this one could be the one.” To every girl that laughs at stupid stuff when she actually doesn’t think it is funny. To every girl who is just looking for that one and only and is having a rough time along the way. To every girl that doesn’t want a guy who just plays with her emotions but actually cares about how she feels. To every girl who wants words backed up with actions. To every girl that fell for all the lies only to find themselves alone in the end. To every girl that gave her heart away only to have it shoved back in her face. To every girl that has faith that “tomorrow will be a better day.”
And it will be.
The ones who waited all night for him to call, only to check the caller ID the next morning and be disappointed. The ones who made it through that bitter break up, dried your own tears, and moved on with your life, only to have him walk back in it months later like nothing ever happened. Those of you who cried on the first day you talked again because you knew exactly where this phone call was going. The ones who listened to him say, I only want to be your friend, one day, and the next, listened to him say how much he loves and misses you. We deserve something, and this is our tribute.Here’s to the ones that took him back, hoping that maybe this time, he was different, hoping that maybe people really do change. We listened to our friends tell us that we were stupid for even thinking about giving him another chance, caught crap from our parents, and even snuck around to see him for while. We went through the great stage with no fights all over again. We started this out thinking it would be just friends, and ended up falling in love with him again. We wanted nothing more in the world than to hear him tell us he loved us too, that even though things were bad in the past, they would be different this time. And when we finally heard it, it was like we were dreaming. This is for us. Here’s to the ones who believed what he said, sat around all over again waiting for a phone call that might come in a few hours, or a few days. Here’s for the tears cried and dried all over again. We wanted so desperately to believe that he was really busy, he couldn’t possibly call us at that moment, or even that he fell asleep early. We trained ourselves to believe the lies because we wanted to believe we had found the one for us. We learned to settle for someone who didn’t treat us the way we should be treated. Here’s for the ones who did their hair and make up and put on their prettiest earrings, only to hear him say that he couldn’t see us today. The ones who never believed it when people told us there might be someone else. We just couldn’t believe that he could do this to us again. This is for those great girls, who loved him more than words can say, and took him back no matter what happened last time because they couldn’t bear to look back on their lives one day and wonder “what if”. This is for the ones that held on to something that was never there to begin with. Here’s to the girls who couldn’t cry to their friends because of how stupid they felt. The ones who held it all in when things came crumbling to pieces again. This is for the ones who couldn’t bear to even tell their mom what was going on, for fear of an “I told you so.” The ones that could just tell that they had made a mistake ever allowing him into their hearts, and their dreams again. We knew that we deserved better the entire time, that we deserved a guy who would call when he said he was going to, one that would come see us whenever he got the chance, one that would really care about us. We just wanted the one that we loved like that. Here’s for the ones that FINALLY realized that he never gave a crap about them. Here’s for the time that he broke your heart again. This is for those days spent trying to hold back the tears, and the tears that turned into anger, then disappointment. Here’s for us girls who finally realized that we deserve better. This is for those confusing days, when you miss him, and want nothing more than to hear his voice, or feel his arms around your waist. Stay strong, and remember that relationships are like broken glass, sometimes it’s better to leave it alone rather than try to put the pieces back together and get hurt. Remember the times you cried, and how long it took you to even be able to look at another guy like that. When “your song” comes on the radio, turn the station. When the day comes that he realizes what a mistake he made and tries calling, turn your phone off. When he tries coming to your house, don’t answer the door. Think of the broken promises, and the lies, the manipulation and the tears, the wasted moments and staying up all night wondering where the crap he was. Think of how your heart used to jump when your phone would vibrate in the middle of the night, and how it fell to your stomach when you saw it wasn’t him, and realized that once again, he hadn’t called when he said he was going to. One day, you’ll find a guy who’s worth all the tears, but he won’t make you cry. You may think that you’ll never care about someone like you did that guy that you always ran back to, but you will. It’s gonna hurt like crap, and it’s going to need time to heal, but the point is, it will heal. This is for those girls, who fell back in love with a guy, only to get hurt all over again.
and we’ll never understand, how he just stopped caring.
“You deserve to be with somebody who makes you happy. Somebody who doesn’t complicate your life. Somebody who won’t hurt you.”
12:34
Whenever I miss 11:11, I like to look out for 12:34, so that I can get a second chance to still make a wish for that something I just can’t help but keep waiting for.
“There are four things you cannot recover.. The stone, after the throw. The word, after it’s said. The occasion, after the loss. And the time.. after it’s gone.”
—Unknown (via kissedbysadness)
“It’s just that sometimes people use thought to not participate in life.”
—the perks of being a wallflower (via straydogsick) (via robot-heart) (via gottfried)
“The most important things are the hardest to say. They are the things you get ashamed of, because words diminish them - words shrink things that seemed limitless when they were in your head to no more than living size when they are brought out. But it’s more than that, isn’t it? The most important things lie to close to wherever your secret heard is buried, and you may make revelations that cost you dearly only to have people look at you in a funny way, to not understand that you almost cried while you were saying it. That’s the worst, I think. When the secret stays locked within, not for a want of a teller, but for an understanding ear.”
— Stephen King (via thisloveisdifficult)
“I’m lonely. Why do you think I had to learn to act so independent? I also get mad too quickly, and I hog the covers, and my second toe is longer than my big one. My hair has its own zip code. plus, I get certifiably crazy when I’ve got PMS. You don’t love someone because they’re perfect. You love them in spite of the fact that they’re not.”
— My Sister’s Keeper (via thisloveisdifficult)
“I want your company. The pleasure of your company. I want your input on video rentals. I stand there for hours, I can’t pick anything out. I want someone to say goodnight to, a last call of the day.”
—Bounce (via kissedbysadness)
“If a guy treats you like he doesn’t give a shit it’s because he doesn’t give a shit.”
—He’s Just Not That Into You (via eletheowl)
In a cab home from the jazz club, he said “You act like I just want to sleep with you.”
He said, “I want to do everything with you.”
—The Girls’ Guide to Hunting and Fishing
i remember him once saying to me “i want everything with you” i wonder if he remembers saying those words….. (probably not)
“I had this guy leave me a voicemail at work, so I called him at home, and then he emailed me to my BlackBerry, and so I texted to his cell, and now you just have to go around checking all these different portals just to get rejected by seven different technologies. It’s exhausting.”
—He’s Just Not That Into You (via eletheowl)
Idea of a Friend
In kindergarten your idea of a good friend was the person who let you have the red crayon when all that was left was the ugly black one.
In first grade your idea of a good friend was the person who went to the bathroom with you and held your hand as you walked through the scary halls.
In second grade your idea of a good friend was the person who helped you stand up to the class bully.
In third grade your idea of a good friend was the person who shared their lunch with you when you forgot yours on the bus.
In fourth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who was willing to switch square dancing partners in gym so you wouldn’t have to be stuck do-si-do-ing with Nasty Nicky or Smelly Susan.
In fifth grade your idea of a friend was the person who saved a seat on the back of the bus for you.
In sixth grade your idea of a friend was the person who went up to Nick or Susan, your new crush, and asked them to dance with you, so that if they said no you wouldn’t have to be embarrassed.
In seventh grade your idea of a friend was the person who let you copy the social studies homework from the night before that you had.
In eighth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who helped you pack up your stuffed animals and old baseball cards so that your room would be a “high schooler’s” room, but didn’t laugh at you when you finished and broke out into tears.
In ninth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who went to that “cool” party thrown by a senior so you wouldn’t wind up being the only freshman there.
In tenth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who changed their schedule so you would have someone to sit with at lunch.
In eleventh grade your idea of a good friend was the person who gave you rides in their new car, convinced your parents that you shouldn’t be grounded, consoled you when you broke up with Nick or Susan, and found you a date to the prom.
In twelfth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who helped you pick out a college, assured you that you would get into that college, helped you deal with your parents who were having a hard time adjusting to the idea of letting you go.
At graduation your idea of a good friend was the person who was crying on the inside but managed the biggest smile one could give as they congratulated you.
The summer after twelfth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who helped you clean up the bottles from that party, helped you sneak out of the house when you just couldn’t deal with your parents, assured you that now that you and Nick or you and Susan were back together, you could make it through anything, helped you pack up for college and just silently hugged you as you looked through blurry eyes at 18 years of memories you were leaving behind, and finally on those last days of childhood, went out of their way to come over and send you off with a hug, a lot of memories, reassurance that you would make it in college as well as you had these past 18 years, and most importantly sent you off to college knowing you were loved.
Now, your idea of a good friend is still the person who gives you the better of the two choices, holds your hand when you’re scared, helps you fight off those who try to take advantage of you, thinks of you at times when you are not there, reminds you of what you have forgotten, helps you put the past behind you but understands when you need to hold on to it a little longer, stays with you so that you have confidence, goes out of their way to make time for you, helps you clear up your mistakes, helps you deal with pressure from others, smiles for you when they are sad, helps you become a better person, and most importantly loves you!
- Anonymous
