“There will never be two things that go together better than you and me.”
—I Need You by Alicia Keys (via lyricallysomething) (via shiningstar)
April 2009
“Whenever a theory appears to you as the only possible one, take this as a sign that you have neither understood the theory nor the problem which it was intended to solve.”
—Karl Popper. (via mills) (via beautifulordinaire)
“I also had some major doubts about love. When i was around 19 i thought long and hard and came to the following conclusion: pure love for another person, and what people call romantic love, are two different things.
Pure love doesn’t manipulate the relationship to one’s advantage, but romantic love is different. Romantic love contains other elements - the desire to be loved by the other person, for instance. If purely loving another was enough, you wouldn’t suffer because of unrequited love. As long as the other person was happy, there wouldn’t be any need to suffer because you weren’t being loved in return. What makes people suffer is the desire to be loved by another person. So i decided that romantic love and pure love for a person are not the same. And that by following this you could lessen the pain of unrequited love.” —Underground - Haruki Murakami
Pure love doesn’t manipulate the relationship to one’s advantage, but romantic love is different. Romantic love contains other elements - the desire to be loved by the other person, for instance. If purely loving another was enough, you wouldn’t suffer because of unrequited love. As long as the other person was happy, there wouldn’t be any need to suffer because you weren’t being loved in return. What makes people suffer is the desire to be loved by another person. So i decided that romantic love and pure love for a person are not the same. And that by following this you could lessen the pain of unrequited love.” —Underground - Haruki Murakami
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We agreed to be friends, what an absurd concept. When I speak to my friends about becoming friends with you, they all stare, as if who really ever becomes friends after a breakup. My friends don’t believe I should speak with you, they don’t understand why I miss you. I was with you all the time, and now, I’m not. I can’t explain this. I still speak of you in the present tense. I’m in the wrong here, I’m making a mistake. We were lovers, and you’re still all over my skin. Now, I have to look at you, be your friend.
March 2009
“Later, when his father left him, the boy cried over his pet, until eventually his father sent a servant to take the body of the bird away and bury it. The boy never cried again, and he never forgot what he’d learned: that to love is to destroy, and that to be loved is to be the one destroyed.”
—City of Bones - Cassandra Clare
“People, in general, would rather die than forgive. It’s that hard. If God said in plain language, “I’m giving you a choice, forgive or die,” a lot of people would go ahead and order their coffin.”
—The Secret Life of Bees- Sue Monk Kidd
“I wish for a moment that time would lift me out of this day, and into some more benign one. But then I feel guilty for wanting to avoid the sadness; dead people need us to remember them, even if it eats us, even if all we can do is say I’m sorry until it is as meaningless as air.”
—The Time Traveller’s Wife- Audrey Niffenegger
“Dreaming comes so easily
‘cause it’s all that i’ve known
True love is a fairy tale
I’m damaged, so how would i know” —Plumb—“Damaged” (via shany)
‘cause it’s all that i’ve known
True love is a fairy tale
I’m damaged, so how would i know” —Plumb—“Damaged” (via shany)
I don’t understand hiding; I’d rather you bare your soul. Tell me how you feel. Tell me your secrets, your fears. Reveal your strengths and weaknesses. Tell me who you are. Tell me what you want and what you need. Share your dreams and your goals. Good, bad: I’ll welcome it.
We’re all human. We’re all imperfect. We’re all beautiful. Embrace it.
Today, I told you my deepest, darkest fear. I never once thought i’d dare to tell this to you. & yet, you took it so well, you even went as far to reassured me that you love me. I’m going to marry you someday.
I told someone something like this once. Things I don’t share. And he left.
“You may not be her first, her last, or her only. She loved before, and she may love again. But if she loves you now, what else matters? She’s not perfect - you aren’t either, and the two of you may never be perfect together but if she can make you laugh, cause you to think twice, and admit to being human and making mistakes, hold onto her and give her the most you can. She may not be thinking about you every second of the day, but she will give you a part of her that she knows you can break - her heart. So don’t hurt her, don’t change her, don’t analyze and don’t expect more than she can give. Smile when she makes you happy, let her know when she makes you mad, and miss her when she’s not there.”
—Bob Marley (via megamazing) (via shany) (via 0livej00ce) (via hit-or-miss) (via supertrish) (via creampuff) (via grrllonlife) (via leahcreates) (via neverreallyready)
“All that is gold does not glitter; not all those that wander are lost.”
—J. R. R. Tolkien (via merricat) (via unicornology)
“I used to know this boy who took notes in a book, but he ripped out all the pages before I got a look at all the words he scribbled, at all the lines he filled. But the ink stains on his fingers told me he was skilled at capturing a feeling that most of us just miss: the simple pain of living with goodbyes on our lips. I found one of the pages crumpled by her bed, and this is how it read: It’s not like I am weak or that I don’t know how to leave, it’s just that every time you cheat, you bring me closer to defeat until there’s nothing left to love, until there’s nothing left to say. I know that you need help, but even I can’t save you from yourself.”
—Her Space Holiday (via owlsgo) (via ithreatenedtostapleher) (via weareinfinite) (via trapeze) (via crazybeautiful)
“people will tell you you’re a “fighter,” that you have to be strong, “so brave,” but I don’t know that it’s giving up, choosing to live instead of choosing to recover.”
—
Stephanie Klein
http://stephanieklein.blogs.com/
(via semichrmd)
Listen
“Sleeping To Dream” by Jason Mraz
Because I’m so damn tired of having to live without you.
“If you love someone you would be willing to give up everything for them, but if they loved you back they’d never ask you to.”
—
Unknown (via saltinyourwounds)
This is very true, and that truth makes me sad for some reason.
I think it’s because I’m too giving. I care too much, I feel too passionately. I don’t think anyone I’ve ever loved in that way, has loved me back just as much, if not more. I wear my heart on my sleeve, and as of right now, it has given me nothing but heartbreak and regret.
(via witharmsakimbo)
“I don’t really know what kind of girl I am.”
—Juno (via beautifulcha0s) (via out-of-my-dreams) (via fantasyaction) (via krby) (via hello-therelove) (via crazybeautiful)
“Surprised, I stood flat-footed and watched him leave, wondering if I was pushing away one of the few people in my life who might have stood behind me in what was to come.”
—Elena Estes - “The Alibi Man” (via iceinflame) (via crazybeautiful)
“Beware the false motives of others. You never suppose it’s those who are closest to you, They say all the right things to gain their position. Then use your kindness as their ammunition; To shoot you down in the name of ambition.”
—Lauryn Hill (via kevin-anthony) (via crazybeautiful)
“i don’t bite. unless you’re into that sorta thing.”
—(via victoryblues) (via crazybeautiful)
“when i’m older and my daughter asks me who my first love was i don’t want to have to pull out the old photo album. i want to be able to point across the room and say he’s sitting right over there.”
—(via victoryblues) (via crazybeautiful)
“look i’m telling you right off the bat i’m high maintenance, so i’m not gonna tip toe around your marriage or whatever you got going there. you wanna be with me, you’re with me. too many guys think i’m a concept or i complete them or i’m gonna make them alive. i’m just a fucked up girl who’re looking for her own peace of mind, don’t assign me yours.”
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eternal sunshine of the spotless mind (via carolynrez) (via hautelikecouture) (via psdontwrite) (via witharmsakimbo)
I LOVE THIS MOVIE MORE THAN ANYTHING IN THE WHOLE WIDE WORLD<3 i have the soundtrack, two copies of the dvd, and the screenplay.
“You know that feeling? That feeling when you just want the right thing to fall into the right place, not only because it’s right, but because it will mean that such a thing is still possible? I want to believe that.”
—Nick & Norah’s Infinite Playlist (via threetruthsforeverystory) (via quote-book)
“Are there some women put in the world just to make you feel bad about yourself?”
—Sex and the City (via quote-book)
I love you at ten in the morning
I love you at ten in the morning,
at eleven, at twelve noon.
I love you with my whole soul and
my whole body, sometimes, on rainy afternoon.
But at two in the afternoon, or at three,
when I start to think about the two of us,
and you thinking about dinner or the day’s work,
or the amusements you don’t have, I start to hate
you with a dull hatred, with half of the hatred
that I reserve for myself. Then I go back to loving you,
when we go to bed and I feel that you are made for me,
that in some way your knee and your belly are telling
me that, that my hands are assuring me of that,
and that there is nowhere I can come to or go to that
is better than your body. The whole of you comes to
meet me and for a moment we both disappear, we
put ourselves into the mouth of God, until I tell you
that I am hungry or sleepy. Every day I love you and
hate you irreparable. And there are days, besides, there
are hours, in which I don’t know you, in which you are
as strange to me as somebody else’s wife. Men worry me,
I worry about myself, my troubles bewilder me. Probably
there is a long time when I don’t think about you at all.
So you see. Who could love you less than I do, my love?-Jaime Sabines
Day's like today make me think of you. This was what the weather was like when I first fell for you.
(via overflowing)
“In my opinion we don’t devote nearly enough scientific research to finding a cure for jerks.”
—Calvin and Hobbes (via stare-at-walls) (via mahal-kita) (via crazybeautiful)
“Any time you sincerely want to make a change, the first thing you must do is to raise your standards. When people ask me what really changed my life eight years ago, I tell them that absolutely the most important thing was changing what I demanded of myself. I wrote down all the things I would no longer accept in my life, all the things I would no longer tolerate, and all the things that I aspired to becoming.”
—Anthony Robbins (via loveishere) (via quote-book)
“You know you’re in love with a person when you talk to them for a minimum of 20 minutes a day in your head.”
—(via need-nobody) (via 0livej00ce)
“In your life, you meet people. Some you never think about again. Some, you wonder what happenend to them. There are some that you wonder if they ever think about you. And then there are some you wish you never had to think about again. But you do.”
—The Wonder Years (via artinslowmotion) (via overflowing) (via lovebot) (via kissingchaos) (via hit-or-miss) (via 0livej00ce) (via yellownights) (via tvquotes) (via pieceofmymind) (via witharmsakimbo)
“Pleasure is a sort of oblivion, a forgetfulness. Pain is remembrance, you cannot forget pain.”
—Bhagwan Shree Rajneesh (via reluctantbuddha) (via quote-book)
I've missed all other opportunities just for you -- all just because I've been waiting for you.
Please don’t make me regret it.
I need to stop waiting for you. I think I’m half way there.
You don’t deserve me. I can do so much better.
“I believe that two people are connected at the heart, and it doesn’t matter what you do, or who you are or where you live; there are no boundaries or barriers if two people are destined to be together.”
—Julia Roberts (via hit-or-miss)
“I put it down on paper and then the ghost does not ache so much. I write it down and Mango says goodbye sometimes. She does not hold me with both arms. She sets me free. One day I will pack my bags of books and paper. One day I will say goodbye to Mango. I am too strong for her to keep me here forever. One day I will go away.”
—Sandra Cisneros, The House on Mango Street (via thoughtsdetained)
“You don’t want to love—your eternal and abnormal craving is to be loved. You aren’t positive, you’re negative. You absorb, absorb, as if you must fill yourself up with love, because you’ve got a shortage somewhere.”
—D.H. Lawrence (via thoughtsdetained)
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Shelter by Kelly Clarkson
originally by Ray LaMontagne
(posted by bunkercomplex)
“When you hurt people, they begin to love you less. That’s what careless words do. They make people love you a little less.”
—The God of Small Things by Arundhati Roy
“I love what you are, and what you do and how you try. I’ve seen your kindness and your strength that carries you through. I’ve seen the best of you. I’ve seen the worst of you. And I understand with perfect clarity exactly what you are. And I love you.”
—Roy Croft (via almostmoon) (via witharmsakimbo)
“Fantasies have to be unrealistic. Because the minute- the second- that you get what you want, you don’t- you can’t- want it anymore. In order to continue to exist desire must have it’s objects perpetually absent. Its not the it that you want, it’s the fantasy of it. So desire supports crazy fantasies. This is what Pascal means when he says we are only truly happy when daydreaming about future happiness or why we say the hunt is sweeter than the kill. Or be careful what you wish for, not because you get it but because you’re doomed not to want it once you do.”
—The Life of David Gale (via samarmoussa) (via illuminatedwallflower) (via stilltime) (via superfluities) (via iamlovingit) (via pieceofmymind) (via witharmsakimbo)
“ned: you’re the only one for me.
chuck: i know you feel that now, but there are things you want, there’s things we both want.
ned: so? everyone wants stuff. we wake up everyday with a list of wishes a mile long and maybe we spend our lives trying to make those wishes come true, but just because we want them doesn’t mean we need them to be happy.
chuck: what do you need to be happy?
ned: you.” —pushing daisies.
chuck: i know you feel that now, but there are things you want, there’s things we both want.
ned: so? everyone wants stuff. we wake up everyday with a list of wishes a mile long and maybe we spend our lives trying to make those wishes come true, but just because we want them doesn’t mean we need them to be happy.
chuck: what do you need to be happy?
ned: you.” —pushing daisies.
Listen
Maria Mena - You’re The Only One
And I probably forgot to tell you this
Like that time when I forgot to tell you about the scar
Remember how uncomfortable that made you feel?
See you’re not what I expected
But you’re the only one who knows how to handle me
I just spent 90 dollars in barnes and noble.I have a problem, but it's okay because I'm willing to admit it.
(via creatively-challenged)
I want to spend a whole day in Barnes and Noble, just reading books and drinking coffee. It’s been awhile since I’ve been there. It’s been an even longer while since I’ve purchased a book. I really need to change that.
I can top that, actually. I spent $36 the second week of March, spent $76 the third week, and spent another $60 yesterday.
“I like to think of it like muscles. When you’re working out, you’re tearing the muscle fibers, so when they grow back, they grow back bigger. Like a callous on your finger, so to speak. So the more you tear them down, the bigger they get when they grow back. I think our hearts, minds, and intellects are all similar. We grow stronger through being torn down.”
—Referring to heartbreak (via abirdfriend) (via movingalong) (via goodmorningheartache) (via witharmsakimbo)
“Sometimes it’s easier to feel like you’re the only one in the world who’s struggling, who’s frustrated or unsatisfied or barely getting by, but the feeling is alive and if you just hold on. Just find the courage to face it all for another day. Someone or something will find you and make it all okay, because we all need a little help sometimes. Someone to help us hear the music in our world, to remind us that it won’t always be this way, that someone is out there and that someone will find you.”
—
(via princessleah7x) (via crazybeautiful)
I do hope so. I am waiting … and waiting …
(via shany)
It is hard to change the nature of a relationship ...
And it is frustrating as well because it’s a battle to not allow yourself to slip back into old ways and habits. It is stressful when you cannot do the same things or don’t feel comfortable being the person you have always been in that relationship. It’s like walking on eggshells. It creates a tremendous amount of strain, awkwardness, and tension. I wonder if it’s even possible to change the nature of a relationship without permanent damage to it.
“I miss you, when something really good happens, you’re the first one I want to share it with. Because I miss you when something is troubling me, you’re the only one who would’ve understand. Because I miss you, when I laugh and cry, you’re the only one who could make me laugh harder and make my tears disappear. I don’t know where we went and why we grew apart, but you should know, I miss you.”
—(via ambivalently) (via enamour) (via hit-or-miss) (via lovebot) (via hearttosoul) (via witharmsakimbo)
“Here’s to the kids whose 11:11 wish was wasted on that one person who will never be there for them.”
—Pete Wentz (via sweetestecstasy & psdontwrite & elliep & redheadsynecdoche & devface & rebounds & captainoo) (via erikavw) (via jeezits) (via dinosores) (via witharmsakimbo)
